Last week we looked at why people can change in the book The Courage To Be Disliked, by authors Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. As the authors pointed out in the dialog between the youth and the philosopher, people can change, people can find happiness, and life is really quite simple.
Even though many people aren’t happy and want to change themselves, why don’t they? The idea pointed out is, that they don’t because as they are, they are striving for a goal they set for themselves. For example, a person won’t go out in public because they are too anxious and fearful. Are the feelings real? Of course they are, but why are they becoming fearful and anxious. Some psychologists might say it is because of past traumas in their lives. Adlerian psychologists would say their choice of how they viewed and chose to use the trauma is what to look at. And now, what is the goal for the person to be anxious or fearful? Is the goal of the behavior to receive attention or recognition from others? The authors share the idea that if this were a child, the parents would want to find out what is wrong and give the attention to fix this. They suggest that the person’s goal to be recognized instead of being a faceless person in a crowd in the outside world, and maybe to receive attention as the youth is giving his friend attention.
To really look at yourself and see what you don’t like, and then to look at the reason or goal for doing what you do even though you don’t like it, does take a lot of courage. Yet it is the way you can change. You do have the power to change and to find happiness and live life simply.
I invite you to follow along and have the courage to change, and learn more with Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha, me and the other international co-hosts on Quantum Leap Book Club on Law of Attraction Radio Network at https://www.loaradionetwork.com/quantum-leap or on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thequantumleapbookclub
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