As one of the co-host on Quantum Leap Book Club I marvel at the added depth of experience felt from hearing the views, findings, real-life applications from others reading the book.
Right now we’re discussing the first part of “The Courage to Be Disliked” by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga.
At the end of this quick summary there is a link to hear the discussions.
A thought-provoking dialogue between a young man and a philosopher. An engaging exploration of complex ideas rooted in Adlerian psychology.
I’d not heard of Adlerian psychology prior to this book. Only to Jung and Fraud, and limited knowledge at that. I’d stated to learn more 20yrs ago and found I didn’t engage well with what I called ‘excuse’ psychology. Bit harsh I know but that’s what I thought at the time.
Learning from this story set on/in Adlerian psychology is fun and I do relate (and are challenged) by the perspectives given.
The narrative begins with the young man seeking answers to his dissatisfaction with life. He believes that past traumas and external circumstances dictate his current unhappiness. The philosopher, however, challenges this perspective by introducing Adler’s ‘person-cantered’ ideas.
According to Adlerian psychology, it is not past events but the interpretations and meanings we assign to them that shape our present and future. This is a significant departure from the Freudian emphasis on childhood experiences as determinants of adult behavior.
One of the key concepts discussed is the idea of self-determination. The philosopher asserts that people are not passive victims of their past but active agents capable of shaping their lives. This notion is empowering but also daunting, as it places the responsibility for change squarely on the individual. The courage to be disliked, as the title suggests, involves embracing this responsibility and the potential social consequences of living authentically.
The philosopher also introduces the concept of “separation of tasks,” which encourages individuals to distinguish between what is their responsibility and what belongs to others. This principle is crucial for achieving freedom and reducing unnecessary conflict. By focusing on one’s own tasks and allowing others to manage theirs, individuals can cultivate healthier relationships and a more fulfilling life.
Overall, the first part of “The Courage to Be Disliked” sets the stage for a transformative journey. It invites readers to reconsider their beliefs about happiness, responsibility, and personal growth. By challenging conventional wisdom and encouraging a shift in perspective, the book offers a powerful message about the potential for change and the importance of living true to oneself.
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Elaway De’Ye’Ng Lit’ta
