So who’s talking that often comes up in different therapies, in questions we ask ourself, really what’s behind this? If we look in this case, is it the body and the cells and the addiction that the cells have, because they’ve got used to a certain chemical? When I say chemical, that’s acknowledging that we are biochemical things. Or is it our thought in the present moment, making a decision?

I recommend diving into chapter six of Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself and also the work originally of Dr. Candice Pert on molecules of emotion, which has been expanded through the work of Dr. Bruce Lipton in the biology of belief. Then as I’ve been doing, there’s always onion layers to peel back. And, when you start observing and really saying think to yourself, “What’s a particular behaviour trait that I do?” often it’ll start to show itself. And one way you can find it is if there’s something someone else does that you find, as they say it pushes your buttons, upsets you a bit, there’s a potential that you have some of that in yourself.

And if you don’t want to do it that way, think of something that you would say was a typical thing, your parents did some behaviour or attitude. And then just say to yourself, “What if I had that?” and see if it’s true, because see our body will justify all of our behaviours yet. There’s a different reality. If we take away that chemistry and the need for the cells to get a hit of the emotions that they’re used to

Journaling is powerful. And what do I mean by journaling? Just ask the question. For me, it could be, do I need people to validate me? Do I need people to say I’m doing something well?¬† And then write, see what happens. And then look in your day. If you’ve done something well, do you need to make sure people know about it? Do you need to say how hard you’ve worked or what you achieved to get the recognition, or is it enough that there’s a feeling inside?

So these are the things to look at. That’s the technique, key point before I go. It’s not about introverting and going around and around in a spiral that then leads you to negative self talk and say, well, I didn’t do that or how terrible. I’ve now realized that, that good trait that I thought I had, how embarrassing, you know, definitely leave that at the door to be honest, most people don’t care. They won’t have even really judged you like that or seen it. Chances are you’re gonna put a lot more attention on it than somebody else.

As you lift yourself, you lift a thousand others.

In the words of Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha,

“As I lift myself, I lift 1000 others”.

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